Friday, April 16, 2010

Pity Party

I try not to complain too much about Joe's schedule. It's not his fault that he often has to work long hours and weekends. But it's really starting to get to me! 4 years of medical school and nearly 2 years into residency I'm pretty much ready to be done.
I like my husband. I really enjoy having him home and just hanging out with him and the family. I don't deal well when he's gone too much. The kids are whinier, I have less patience, the house is more cluttered. Life is just better all around when he's here. And maybe if he had a set schedule, I could adjust better. But he doesn't. Every 4 weeks, he moves to a new rotation, with new doctors and new hours. And even if his schedule is, say, 7-5, most of the time he's not leaving the hospital at 5. Sometimes he's 30 minutes late. Sometimes 2-3 hours late. Some nights I get the kids all excited and let them know daddy is going to be home soon only to get a two word text: "home late." When I read those words I get angry. Like I said, I know it's not his fault but I just can't help it. I'm mad that someone else is stealing more of my precious time with my husband away from me.
Today I'm mad. I got a text from Joe this morning telling me that he had to cover the night shift tonight from 6pm-6am. This ruins the weekend. Well, part of it, at least. He has Friday afternoons off this month, a VERY rare treat. But today, instead of coming home and relaxing with the family, he came home and went right to sleep so he can be awake all night tonight. Tonight, he was supposed to take Jacob to church for a Pinewood Derby activity (not scout related, but just for fun) that he now can't attend. Now I have a sad 6 year old as well. Abby, Rachel and I are supposed to go to a Pampered Chef party and, while I can still go, I now have to take all 3 kids. Fun. NOT! Then, tomorrow morning when he gets home, he'll be exhausted from working all night. So, instead of his usual morning basketball game at the church, he'll be sleeping. He usually takes Abby and Jacob with him to the church and they watch from the stage while he plays. They think it's the coolest thing ever! I love it too because I get a few quiet hours in the morning to sleep in a little and enjoy some time with Rachel. Not tomorrow. :(

Thankfully, I have a few fun things planned for the family tomorrow so the whole weekend won't be a bust!

3 comments:

  1. oh katy i SO feel your pain!! it always makes me realize that single parenting is NOT how HF wanted children to be raised!!

    i just have to make sure that when m IS home, we make sure it's family time and not waste it, kwim? remember - this TOO shall pass!

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  2. Hugs to you, Katy. I get it. ;) I'm so there with you right now. Thankfully, I will get a break for most of the day tomorrow and I sooo need it after this crazy week! Hopefully you guys can enjoy the fun things you have planned together!

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